Just Been Dumped? Steps To Follow For Recovery

 I found this site that talks about all the things people don't usually talk about.  There are articles answering every question you've ever had about sex and relationships.  Christine Webber's article explaining the "LEARN" process for getting over being dumped has some very good tips.

L stands for LIST

Make a list of all the things about your ex-partner that you did not like. It may start off small, but if you pin it up in your kitchen so that you see it daily, you will be amazed at how it will grow...read more 

E is for EXPERIENCE

After a relationship is finished, we tend to think that we can never be loved again. This is not true, of course, but it is what we believe at the time...read more

A stands for APPRECIATION

Appreciation of yourself, that is.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror and focus on your best features and congratulate yourself on them. Do this often.
Another helpful task is to write a list of 50 things that you like about yourself. This might take some doing, but it is a rewarding exercise...read more

R is for RE-ORGANIZING

Unfortunately, when you have been half of a couple for a while, many of your friends will be other couples who knew you and your ex.
Sadly, some of these people are probably avoiding you like the plague now, fearful, in some cranky way, that having you around will make their own relationship more vulnerable.
But even if you keep plenty of old friends, this is a time when you need a whole new circle of mates of both genders. I know you probably don’t feel like going to a French class right now, or joining the local Amateur Dramatics, but actually this would be a good time to do it. It would fill your mind with new things and divert it from all that sorrow. Also, you would make new friends who are nothing to do with your ex...read more 

N is for NO SEX WITH YOUR EX!

Often when you have been apart for several months, your ex may suddenly decide that the grass was not greener outside the relationship after all.
Or perhaps he or she will sense that you are getting your life in order and may feel jealous that you are now in a position to find someone else. Maybe he or she will just fancy a quick snog for old time's sake.
The trouble is that sex and closeness might make you feel loved and wanted temporarily, but it will leave you with more sorrow and confusion after wards...read more


 
Written by Christine Webber, psychotherapist and life-coach